I have this problem at work, with people seeing suicide and suicidal thoughts as selfishness so I do sympathise. Mental illness is like any other illness or injury so blaming someone for being close to death for being mentally ill is as helpful and as compassionate as blaming a person with cancer for having a near scrape with death.
It’s not clever or grown up and you can get your relatives to talk to me about if it helps.
It is amusing to outsiders how Americans abuse the term rest in the context of bodily functions. Sorry to hear you relatives lost their jobs in that way. Currently that wouldn’t be legal in this country but post Brexit who knows what workers rights we will lose.