Are you seriously using Padme’s death as an example of emotional authenticity? Audiences have very little reason to care about her death. It was just an “okay, she needed to die because she isn’t in the OT” kind of deal. And the way she died was laughable. “Lost the will to live”? What does that even mean?
Han’s death was infinitely more emotionally charged. Not because he’s a beloved character and people don’t want to see him die, but because the moment itself was tense and filled with emotion.
It’s strange that you think that TFA was telling audiences how to feel, when that’s a major, almost universal complaint of the PT. That George Lucas had no idea how to show the audience things and let them use their brains, and had to beat them over the head with incredibly unsubtle dialogue.