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#965935
Topic
Politics
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ferris209 said:

I always try to live by the teachings of Mr. Rogers, so at least I’m seeing lots of heroes in this whole deal. Every one of them are wearing a badge. I’ve also seen some clearly shocked, perhaps in shock, protestors interviewed by the media who appear to be dumbfounded, and I believe questioning some of their own beliefs, after witnessing the large mass of of cops who rushed toward the gunfire to protect them while many others lead them to safety and acted as human shields to keep them safe. So maybe some good can come of this when many of protestors realize that perhaps the vast majority of cops are genuinely good people who are willing to lose their lives protecting EVERY person.

All I know is my brushes with the law have always been because of my own fault. And I was always treated with respect. And right now I feel really bad about what’s happening. It’s got to be a hell of a hard time being a cop facing these kinds of risks and always getting it right each time. Getting blamed by everyone. And still having to stand strong and protect the ones doing the blaming.

I’m so glad you’re Ok man. I feel heartbroken for the fact of your fallen comrades. I don’t know how this will all end. But I’m praying this gets us all into the right kind of place to think about things fairly. I don’t know.

Peace Ferris.

-Trident

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#948493
Topic
The Place to Go for Emotional Support
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Mike O said:

Chewtobacca said:

Mike O said:
I just slipped again. This is horrible. I can’t stop. It’s getting worse.

You might try to find some way of limiting your internet access so that you’re not tempted to look at things that distress you. I know it’s hard, but you’re going to have to stop yourself from accessing these videos in the same way that someone who is trying to lose weight mustn’t have certain foods in the house. What you have described is almost certainly a form of obsession, but it also sounds like a kind of addiction too, so you have to avoid people, places, and paraphernalia – in other words, anything that might cause you to slip.

I don’t know how to articulate this, but I feel like I CAN’T stop. It’s incredibly stupid, but it feels like some sort of physical compulsion. Like a need. To do something which I know will upset me. It’s so stupid. All of this stuff is old anyway. These arguments-on both sides-have been pretty throughly run through. Hell, I went through them in philosophy classes in school endlessly. I don’t want to think about this anymore!! I outlined my personal spiritual beliefs above. That’s what I think. I went through all of this shit before! I came to these conclusions! It just endlessly circular! I can hear the sneering atheists arguing that I’m attempting to convince myself of something I “know” is “wrong,” but as outlined above, I don’t see it that way. And so what? How does theological debate help me with my day-to-day life? I’d give my soul to the devil to take back the forum posts that caused this whole debacle. I want to be able to watch a television show which depicts or has characters talking about these issues and observe the intellectual distance I did previously. I want to be able to read books and comic again, watch movies again, watch TV again, do things I enjoy again without this literally gnawing away at my mind. But I can’t. It’s horrifying. I can’t stop! I don’t know how to take this to a therapist because I have absolutely no idea what she’ll say! My mother found one, we’re checking if my insurance covers her. She’s well-reviewed. I want to cry, to sob. I’m tired of this. I want it to stop! I want to just go to sleep. Stay asleep so this will stop. It’s so horrible.

I feel your pain man. Please hang in there. Know you’re not alone in this. You’ve got some pals here who care. And you’ve got some good advice so far. But this fight’s a bit higher than you’re ready for. So I’m glad you’ve got your mother’s help in this. Man if mine had been around when I was going off the rails. Holy ****.

But on the side of religion it’s cool to believe in God. It’s a fine thing to want to hope for a future beyond the future end. Have you tried praying your rosary lately? I mean sometimes it was the only thing keeping me from pulling out my own hair. Try some time in adoration or in Church. Quiet time. Alone and in prayer. Ask your mom to bring you to a place like that. A calming place away from computers and phones and screens.

I don’t know what else to say. Just need to flip a switch somewhere in your head. Need to get you into a calmer place. Then maybe the rational can start feeding you again. Wish I could hold you man. Wish I could console you. But all I’ve got is words.

Still. I’ll pray for you. It can’t hurt.

Peace Mike.

-Trident

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#946684
Topic
If you need to B*tch about something... this is the place
Time

darthrush said:

Trident said:

Mark’s Down On Your Syntax said:

I worry! Good golly I worry! Jeez guys, please look after yourselves.

I can’t even begin to understand your motivations and what it does for you because I don’t drink. I never got a taste for it and none of my family really drink. I’m not anti-booze or morally superior or anything, I just think it’s gross.

I know I’m new to posting here but you lot aren’t new to me! I’ve been reading you for many years and I want you to all be happy because you, with the obvious notable exceptions, seem like good people. I just worry when I hear you talking about doing harmful things when you’ve got the option not to (if that makes sense.)

How about a nice cup of tea instead?!

p.s. Seriously, take care guys.

Glad you don’t drink. I’ve been sober since March 5th. But last weekend I bought 2 Crystal Heads with the idea of crashing and burning. But somehow I stopped short. I didn’t even open them. They’re still sitting in the corner. It’s not that I’m not tempted. It’s more that I hate myself too much to give me such an easy out. I’d rather keep them there. Tormenting me. Wonderful stuff.

Anyway. Don’t drink. Don’t start. It’s hell.

Peace.

-Trident

Shit. I drank a couple of Mikes hard lemonade and got a good buzz before a high school dance we had earlier this year. No headache. No desire to drink again. Just boosted my enjoyment a bit.

Good for you.

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#946664
Topic
If you need to B*tch about something... this is the place
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Mark’s Down On Your Syntax said:

I worry! Good golly I worry! Jeez guys, please look after yourselves.

I can’t even begin to understand your motivations and what it does for you because I don’t drink. I never got a taste for it and none of my family really drink. I’m not anti-booze or morally superior or anything, I just think it’s gross.

I know I’m new to posting here but you lot aren’t new to me! I’ve been reading you for many years and I want you to all be happy because you, with the obvious notable exceptions, seem like good people. I just worry when I hear you talking about doing harmful things when you’ve got the option not to (if that makes sense.)

How about a nice cup of tea instead?!

p.s. Seriously, take care guys.

Glad you don’t drink. I’ve been sober since March 5th. But last weekend I bought 2 Crystal Heads with the idea of crashing and burning. But somehow I stopped short. I didn’t even open them. They’re still sitting in the corner. It’s not that I’m not tempted. It’s more that I hate myself too much to give me such an easy out. I’d rather keep them there. Tormenting me. Wonderful stuff.

Anyway. Don’t drink. Don’t start. It’s hell.

Peace.

-Trident

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#943862
Topic
If you need to B*tch about something... this is the place
Time

Tyrphanax said:

TV’s Frink said:

generalfrevious said:

The world is run by purely evil people.

I WILL FIX THIS

THE WORLD WILL NO LONGER BE RUN BY HUMANS

I keep bouncing between “Ultron” and “Not Ultron”. Leaning heavily towards “Ultron” now.

moviefreakedmind said:

One unsubstantiated allegation with questionable circumstances isn’t enough for me to believe Woody Allen is a monster.

And you’re starting to sound like a “rapist-by-association”!

That’s pushing the pot a bit too close to the edge of the stove. I don’t think saying “one instance of questionable circumstances isn’t enough proof” is anywhere near that.

Of course you could be joking. Of course I could be missing that.

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#943069
Topic
If you need to B*tch about something... this is the place
Time

Warbler said:

Tyrphanax said:

Can you still replace hard drives on Windows-based laptops these days? I assume so. Just buy a new one off Newegg, unscrew the HDD bay, plop the new one in and you should be good to go.

Provided they haven’t sealed them completely these days like they do with Crapple products.

We’ve ordered another hard drive. We didn’t think to check whether the thing can be opened or not. I hope it can. I don’t want to try to open myself and risk breaking the computer. The real problem is that stupidly, I never backed up the hard drive. So I have lost everything I put on there for that past 10 months. 😦

Did you check out online how to fix a hard drive? Depending on what’s wrong with it sometimes it’s as simple as the read/write head being stuck. Just takes a screw driver to fix.

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#942911
Topic
Am I a Bully?
Time

Tyrphanax said:

HansiG said:

I think people are over-sensitive about cyber bullying. Everytime I watch some presentation about it, I see things that happen to me on the internet 5 times a day.

Someone on the internet calls you a “*************************” because you disagree with his opinion on the new Generic Shooter 16: Nuke Edition =/= Cyberbullying

That’s not to say it doesn’t exists, but those teachers, parents, whoever is making those anti-cyber bullying campaigns are targeting a completely wrong thing.

I think that’s the issue we face with any issue that arises due to technological advancement: there’s a period where we’re not sure how to handle it or what aspects of the issue to focus on.

People don’t take cyberbullying seriously often times because they think of someone flaming them for liking brie instead of Camembert which happens to basically everyone who becomes involved in any online community at some point in their online career (like I said in the Random Thought or Bitching thread, the anger is strong even on this tiny slice of the internet). Stuff like consistent emotional abuse or death threats or doxxing or brigading and SWATing or any of that stuff is pretty harmful. But efforts against online bullying aren’t focused enough just yet for it to be taken seriously as an actual issue (much like mental health in general).

The thing we old guard (and I’m not even old yet) may not realize, is that the filthy Millennials these days all grew up in a post-smartphone world, where being connected is just something that is. The majority of us here all grew up playing outside without our heads down staring at all of the data in the entire world in our hands. It’s easier for us to say “Hey just turn it off and go outside”, because we’re relics of a time when disconnecting was easy because we weren’t connected in the first place. Shit, even I find that hard to do sometimes.

A lot of kids these days get a Facebook account in middle school, and kids are shitty to one another. I mean at least people our age in school (I was homeschooled, but I can extrapolate) could go home and watch Voltron or some shit and not worry about bullies until the next day, but now kids are bullied at school and then go home to watch whatever goofy anime on their computer and the bullies are shooting them nasty messages on Facebook or something, and this is doubly worse for introverted people (like myself) who tend to find comfort online - when your comfort zone becomes hostile, where do you go then? War has changed, and disconnecting never occurs to them because they’ve always been hooked up to something, and god knows their parents (people our age) often have a tough time putting down the phone or the computer or whatever so they don’t learn to, either.

So it’s never really as easy as “stop people from bullying” or “make a safe space where people with dissenting opinions are banned” or “parent better” or even “just toughen up.” It’s kinda an amalgam of all of those things. Except the safe space one. That’s a ridiculous notion because the world can be a mean place and hiding from it does not serve you.

Now that’s a good write up.

I was mostly bullied for being too sensitive. Being too ‘gay.’ Being too much the guy with his heart on his sleeves. And let’s face it. I was a bully’s dream. A nice soft target who mostly hung out with girls and so had a weakness ready to pitch at. But back me into a corner and I’m a wolverine. I can be a shit-kicker too. Years of practice made me figure that sitting out every fight wasn’t a good strategy. So now I sort of sail into the wind a bit. I don’t mind getting razzed or hassled. I don’t have a problem with a good tease. And I sure as hell lost all sense of sensitivity over hanging out with girls 😉

But I never lost having my heart on my sleeves. I never lost that habit of checking out the room for the guy lowest on the ladder. Or they guy taking more than his share of piling on.

Because that guy used to be me.

Peace.

-Trident
(Yeah. They guy who signs his name. Both top and bottom. Because I must think a guy’s forgetful.

Or something.

Or maybe a habit I picked up on another forum with bad formatting problems, hey? ;-p )

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#942901
Topic
Random Thoughts
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ricarleite said:

Just checking if I still have my account… I suppose I do!

Wow. Legendary ricarleite back from the great unknown? Welcome back!

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#942140
Topic
Politics
Time

Frank your Majesty said:

moviefreakedmind said:

Yeah. European countries are (ironically) turning into fascist dictatorships.

*cough* Trump *cough*

Now seriously, a country turns into a fascist dictatorship because it doesn’t tolerate fascism? Really?

lol fair point. I sort of disagree. But I also see enough truth in it to give you the win.

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#942139
Topic
Politics
Time

Jeebus said:

moviefreakedmind said:

It’s a protest bill. I have no opinion.

I mean of the idea of women being drafted.

I think it’d make us a lot less likely to go to war. And a lot more likely to come home right after. Because it might sound sexist (or might even be sexist), but I think it’s one thing to accept our young men going off to war in droves when the chips are down, but when the girls go too well things sort of get a bit too real for a minute. I don’t know.

Maybe I’m just still a bit protective of girls because I keep thinking of my younger sisters.

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#942135
Topic
Am I a Bully?
Time

If Frink’s a bully, he’s a very particular kind. A kind that’s pretty rare actually.

I mean he’s maybe like a bit of a crusading bully. The kind who sees something that looks wrong and so takes it upon himself to fix it by driving the person away who’s committed the wrong. Sort of like a sheepdog chasing away the wolves. Now I don’t know if he really wants to be mean about it. Or if maybe he’s just not that sensitive. Or if maybe he figures there’s no soft way to do it. Or if he really doesn’t think some kinds of people feel pain. Or if maybe he just has a narrow sense of humor that really thinks it’s ok to stamp on a guy’s hand and they’ll both laugh together–and let’s face it, some do laugh. I know probably wouldn’t get too sore about it.

So sort of. Yeah. I guess I would have to call him a bully. But he’s the kind of bully I wouldn’t have a problem talking with. He’s not the kind I’d worry would really do me any harm or get sadistic happiness out of doing that. He’s just the type who’s maybe idealistic enough to not realize that there are real people behind the avatars he sometimes mocks. Or maybe I’m the idealistic one thinking everyone has feelings when maybe they don’t. I don’t know.

But sometimes I think maybe it’s like having a tame troll who’s sort of on our side most of the time?

One that does seem to get a kick out of making some people feel stupid and/or not liked, but only if they do something to ‘deserve it’ first? Now this is tough for me to say because he’s never picked on me personally. So I sort of feel like I’m kicking him when he hasn’t done the same to me. So that’s not really fair. But at the same time I also strangely think Frink’s fair at taking criticism. So that’s why I sort of think he’ll understand what I’m saying. Like I say, if he’s a bully, he’s a very particular kind.

Peace.

-Trident

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#941386
Topic
Random Thoughts
Time

Format harddrive c😗.*

Wait. He’s an Apple 2 computer. There’s no harddrive on that thing.

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