The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 5

Well now that I reread that, I guess you're right. LOL

You all know that girl? That girl whom I've referred to every now and then as the girl who was the love of my life during high school? The girl who, unfortunately, never returned my feelings? The girl I never even got to say goodbye to? The one who I've never really gotten over even after all these years?

Well, I randomly stumbled upon her yearbook photo while dicking around on the 'Net. As I never got a copy of my school's 2005 yearbook, I never did get to see her graduation photo, and as a result I've had recurring dreams for years about going back to my high school in search of that photo, usually to no avail.

Perhaps now the dreams can finally come to an end. Perhaps now I can finally forgive her and move on.

Well this just got creepy.

Seriously I think you may need some help.  There is nothing to forgive because she did nothing wrong.

I know what it is like to care about someone and not have them return the feelings but this is going to far, and remember you are getting this advice from the guy with the mental disorder who needs medication on a daily basis, this is not healthy.

There is nothing to forgive and posting her picture as your avatar is reaching Norman Bates levels of creepy.

I am not saying this to be mean or as a joke, I think you may have a real problem that is harming your quality of life and you need help for it.

Please seek out that help soon.

Unless we've misunderstood the situation, I'm gonna agree with DrCrow.

1. Do we know for certain the pic being used as his avatar is in fact a pic of the woman in question?

2. I am not a shrink, but maybe it is possible to feel like you have to forgive someone even when you know they did nothing wrong.  It certainly doesn't seem like this woman did anything wrong, but that doesn't mean that DuracellEnergizer doesn't feel the same kind of hurt the someone feels when they are wronged.  While he may need help, it seems logical to me that is better to forgive someone even when they have done you no wrong, than to not forgive that person and continue to feel as if they wronged you.  But like I said, I am not a shrink.

DuracellEnergizer, if pic in your avatar is in fact that woman you are talking about, I strongly advise removing it.   I would strongly advise removing it no matter who the woman is, if you don't have her permission to use that pic as your avatar.   I certainly wouldn't want someone using my pic as their avatar without my permission. 

There are a lot girls/women I have had feelings for, but I was afraid to tell them(and most of the time I knew I had no shot with them anyway).  Two times in my life I let my feelings be known.  The first the girl just turned me down.  The second time ended in diaster which I will not talk about here.  Suffice it to say, because of that 2nd time, I will have a lot of difficulty telling a woman how I feel ever again. 

DrCrowTStarwars said:

There is nothing to forgive because she did nothing wrong.

Yes and no. The last time we communicated, things didn't end well between us. While the stuff leading up to that moment was largely my fault, she didn't handle that situation in particular half as well as she could have.

posting her picture as your avatar is reaching Norman Bates levels of creepy.

I was feeling pretty depressed last night, so I used it as an avatar as a form of catharsis. The misery is (mostly) out of my system now, so I'll change it (and poke fun at myself doing so). 

DuracellEnergizer said:

DrCrowTStarwars said:

There is nothing to forgive because she did nothing wrong.

Yes and no. The last time we communicated, things didn't end well between us. While the stuff leading up to that moment was largely my fault, she didn't handle that situation in particular half as well as she could have.

posting her picture as your avatar is reaching Norman Bates levels of creepy.

I was feeling pretty depressed last night, so I used it as an avatar as a form of catharsis. The misery is (mostly) out of my system now, so I'll change it (and poke fun at myself doing so). 

 Glad to hear you are doing better.

Hope things improve for you in future.

I feel like I'm running out of steam.  I'm tired, rundown, I have no energy.  This is due in small part to the fact that my job never gives me two days off in a row.  Like once every two months I'll get 2 consecutive days offmaybe.  (it's one of those work 2 to 4 days in a row then get 1 day off instead of 5 days on 2 days off jobs... although sometimes I still work 5 or 6 days in a row and still get only 1 day) But that's not really the main cause, the main cause is my lifestyle, which I've covered in this thread and feel no need to rehash.  But it's gotten out of hand, and I feel like it's going to have to come to an end soon.  I feel dead.  No energy, drained, my entire body hurts for no reason, my stomach feels like it's burning much of the time, I always feel slightly queasy, and I'm just run-down. On my days off all I can do is sleep.  I'll sleep for a good 14 hours straight if I don't have to get up and go to work. I don't spend time with my friends much any more.  I can barely even muster the energy to work on mixing and mastering my second album which I finished recording months ago.  In fact, I'm still working on distributing the first album just because I was too lazy to give it out to people fast enough so it's just sitting, which I put far too much work into to let it sit like that.  (Praetor, you should get yours soon)  Work that involves sitting in a chair in front of a computer, which is a real testament to how far I've fallen in the last three months or so... if any of you have ever heard my music you'll know that recording it would be quite a work out.   Now I can barely process the tracks I've already recorded.  And I want to record another one in the next couple of months, so I'm either going to have to quit drinking, or slow down at least, or increase my pot intake.  (I smoke only high quality stuff that doesn't give the stereotypical lazy-hippy quality that most of the media associates with pot use... it adds to my energy levels.  Mostly sativas, if you're having trouble believing me there).   I know that this would only further add to my mental detachment, but I don't feel like I'm at a point where I'm ready to make big changes, and although increasing my pot would detach me further, it would at least add to my physical energy levels and allow me to complete the tasks at hand.  And who knows, maybe smoking more pot will help reduce the urge to drink.  (It did help me quit smoking K2, which I haven't touched in over a year and a half and never will again)

Man, and here I thought I was feeling lethargic and achy from eating too much pizza. Compared to you, I'm the goddamn roadrunner. ;-)

I'm starting to think I may actually just be sleeping too much.  I only slept 7 hours last night, and I feel much better than I have in a while.

Nah caffeine gives me panic attacks.  A better option (in my world anyway) would be to instead of smoking weed and drinking before work, just smoke extra weed and no alcohol.  High quality ganja actually has been proven to increase motivation and energy.  

It affects certain people differently.  Or he may have had low quality weed.  (it matters... better weed isn't just about more potency but it also has better effects and less side effects)  I've come to work high and drunk every day since I've been working here, I'm sure I can handle doing the same thing except not being drunk.  

I haven't not been high since I was 16.  :P

It is nearly 1:00 AM where I live, and I have so far only had 3 drinks today.  May not sound like much of an accomplishment, and I'm sure I'll have a couple more before going to sleep, I worked til 11:00 PM today. Only 2 of the 3 were before work too, so that's progress.

This song pretty accurately describes my situation right now. I'm still fairly young, and this is the first time I've had to go through this where I might actually have a chance. We'll see what happens.

Post Praetorian said:

Well good luck!

 Thanks! It's been on my mind constantly, but I tend to keep to myself, even though I wish I could scream it to the world. The anonymity of this forum seemed like a good place to share it with... someone!

I'm at a loss of what to do about one of my friends.  I'm sorry if this message ends up being disjointed and rambly, I'm way wasted more than I've been in a long time.  My friend that I've been friends with for years is now causing more upset than anything.  He only hits me up or responds to my calls anymore if he's out of things to get high on because he knows I'll have pot.  It didn't used to be that way.  Tonight me and about 7 or 8 people were having a mini beer pong party and all the sudden out of nowhere him and this other dude about come to blows over some stupid misunderstanding that I don't want to even get into right now.  My friend wasn't in the wrong and didn't really do anything, but we couldn't get him to understand that the other guy was just too drunk and wasn't thinking straight, he just took it personally and wanted blood.  Screaming at the top of his lungs after the other guy had left at 3 in the morning, we're lucky the cops didn't show up.  Me and my other friend (we kinda have a group of three muskateers you might say... the other guy is also my best friends and we are on much better terms and he doesn' tuse me and actually thinks rationally) spent all night trying to calm him down and basically babysit him.  He ended up turning on us and trying to fight us just for trying to stop him from doing anything stupid, so we left.  Me and my other friend are both at a loss for what to do.  We're tired of him using us, and we're tired of having to babysit him when he gets too drunk.  And because the fight wasn't originally his fault it is impossible to explain it to him when he's drunk because he knows he didn't start the fight and that's the only side of the argument he's even willing to consider.  We don't want to just let him go because we've all been friends for years.  The thing that complicates things is that me and the rational one drink and get high more than he does, so that takes away any vantage point we might have in trying to talk to him about it.  All he has to do is point out how fucked up we are (even though we don't fight or lose the ability to think straight like he does) and we've lost the argument.  So we're at a loss for what to do.  We're tired of being treated like shit.

If you feel it's just not worth continuing the relationship, you are free to just stop seeing them. You should just let him know how he's been acting in a calm, rational manner, and if things don't improve, screw him. Don't feel obligated to continue a friendship simply because it's been a long one. It seems to me you'd be happier without this friend.

Or better yet, stop buying pot.

TV's Frink said:

Or better yet, stop buying pot.

 Well, yeah, that too.

And that would solve... what exactly?  I don't know what you read in that message, but me smoking pot didn't cause any of that.  My friends drinking caused it, not even mine. The problem wasn't even me it was my friend I wasn't even involved in the fight I was just trying to calm my friend down.  All quitting pot would do would be to take away that friends reason for using me, and so I'd be just as well off not answering his calls.