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i don’t see how his posting in this thread could ever be productive.
The blue elephant in the room.
The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 14
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I apologize for my rant. I was upset and I have calmed down now.
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i don’t see how his posting in this thread could ever be productive.
I’m not a person who knows how to accept emotional support very well, so I sympathize. Putting feelings out there may help you work them out. Sometimes just saying something helps to relieve the pressure.
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I was talking about darth_id. all he knows is assholery and as such should steer clear of this thread.
and no worries warb, no need to apologize thats what this thread is here for. hope you’re feeling better.
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I was talking about darth_id. all he knows is assholery and as such should steer clear of this thread.
He really makes one miss the ignore button.
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I was talking about darth_id. all he knows is assholery and as such should steer clear of this thread.
He should read the first post. Only an actual asshole would keep it up after that.
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For anyone suffering from depression…I’ve suffered from it ever since my first daughter died nine years ago. That was extremely traumatic and took a long time to overcome (if such a thing can be fully overcome, which it can’t), but the depression lingered. A few years ago I talked with my doctor (not a psychologist, just my general practitioner), and he put me on anti-depressants. It really helped a lot. It helps to this day.
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And who knows, if in the meantime I find a good enough reason to live life, I can quit then.
Here’s where your basic pessimistic outlook on life may actually help. Sure, you can imagine a happy shiny world where you find a reason to live, cut way the hell back on your drinking in time to save your liver, and live happily ever after. You can even image a not-so-shiny world where you fail to find a reason to live, your liver fails, and you’re no longer bound to this mortal coil. But you know what would be decidedly un-shiny? What would be the worst possible thing? You find a reason to live, but you also find out that your liver is shot and you’re not long for the life you’ve grown to love. Now, I’m not actually trying to be heavyhanded here–as a lifelong pessimist, I really can’t help but see things certain ways. Consider your options carefully and completely. Please.
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Good advice, Frink and Catbus.
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For anyone suffering from depression…I’ve suffered from it ever since my first daughter died nine years ago. That was extremely traumatic and took a long time to overcome (if such a thing can be fully overcome, which it can’t), but the depression lingered. A few years ago I talked with my doctor (not a psychologist, just my general practitioner), and he put me on anti-depressants. It really helped a lot. It helps to this day.
That is rough man. Thoughts go out to you.
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Yeah, I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose a child.
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Thanks guys. I know I’ve told the story before but if you missed it…
http://theshizz.org/forum/index.php/topic/36039-abortion/?p=1055871
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that is horrible. i couldnt imagine making a decision like that. even knowing you made the right choice can only help so much i would imagine.
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It’s a more common story than you’d think. I actually know two separate people who went through very similar things (one had to drive hundreds of miles to get the procedure that would keep her from dying from blood poisoning from her stillborn twins). It is very personal and many people don’t talk about it, so people tend to think they’re alone. Thank you for sharing, Frink.
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Hey all I’m new here. I’ve been thinking about calling a suicide hotline just to talk but idk I’m pretty sure that’d be weird
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what do you think?
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Who cares if it’s weird? It’s anonymous, and if you think you need to then you definitely should. If you feel like you’re going to do something and you can’t stop it, go to the emergency room and tell them you are having suicidal thoughts.
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I’d recommend talking to your GP about it too.
Sometimes suicidal thoughts have a physical cause which can be corrected by just taking a few tablets for a short period of time.
Talking to someone is a good sign though. If you were sure suicide was what you wanted to do you wouldn’t need to talk about it so clearly you have doubts that you need to explore first.
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I think I’m running out of rope. Or something. I’m finding it hard to care about anything anymore. Except for things which have no solution. I’m not even sure if I’d say I’m miserable, I’m just so grey feeling that it seems like misery. It’s not that there’s really anything bad about my life, it’s just that there’s nothing that gives me joy in life any more. My friends have all become very distant (at least partially by my doing, I’m sure) and I’m not close to anybody any more. I don’t talk to anybody any more. People at work wonder “why I’m not funny any more”. I only eat once a day, if that.
The time is coming soon that I’m going to have to tell the woman that I love how I feel. She doesn’t know. And I know that while she may care, she doesn’t feel the same way about me. It feels like she’s my only real friend left, although that may be just because I’ve unintentionally put her on a pedestal, but either way, it isn’t good. I don’t see the friendship continuing once I tell her. Not that she would abandon me, but I don’t think I could continue seeing her once I know that she knows. So there’ll go the last shred of joy I have. Not that it matters, it doesn’t give me any joy any more. Nothing good is going to come from me telling her, but I just don’t think I can keep it secret any more and it’s time I was honest.
There’s nothing bad about my life, but there’s nothing giving me any kind of joy whatsoever any more. I just feel such an intense nothingness that I may as well not be alive. (And that’s not me being suicidal, it’s just an illustration of how little I am actually living these days) I used to have my music, but I just don’t feel it any more. My alcoholism and drug use honestly hasn’t gotten any worse, but it hasn’t gotten any better either. That may be part of the reason I feel so grey. For such a long time when I started feeling this way I would just up my dosage of one or the other. And it’s not that I can’t just up the dose again, but I guess I’ve just reached a point where I don’t see the point in doing any more because I just don’t have any hope any more. Before I could just do more because I felt like it could help, even if I knew it would only be for a while. Now, even though I could do more, I don’t, because I know I’ll just be a little less coherent but still miserable. Bleck.
In case anybody is wondering, this situation hasn’t changed at all. But the section I have bolded is really close to coming to a head, to where I won’t be able to stand it anymore.
Note that to any concerned parties, I’m not doing anything to further my wish (dream?) of dying.
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I wish I could give advice on what to do about this woman that you love, but I don’t have any knowledge in that area. But I wish you the best of luck and hope and pray life gets better for you.
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Thanks Warb.
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Based only on what you posted, you have to get over feeling that way about her. Find someone else. I know easier said than done, but it works.
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I know, but like you said easier said than done. I’m not deluding myself into thinking it’s a possibility it’s going to work out with her, I just want to tell her to sort of get it off my chest and get closure. Plus then she would know why I stop talking to her (having the same job as her will make that hard. Plus we’re both managers so we’ll have to communicate) hopefully without hurting her feelings too much.
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Perhaps you can consider another possibility…instead of pouring your heart out to her, knowing she doesn’t feel the same way, what if you just casually asked her out on a date? “Hey, I know we’re good friends and this might be a bit awkward for you, but would you like to go on a date some time?” If she says no, you just laugh it off a bit (“no biggie”) and then start trying to think about someone else. And she might actually say yes. Any of us men who think we always know what women will do are kidding ourselves.