I usually cut things off with people before letting that happen, but lying is the main one. I hate being lied to, or tricked.
The Person in Question
Guess it’s a good thing the tock is clicking on my alcoholic liver lol.
Might I suggest bourbon and ginger ale? It’s a recent favorite of mine. Just poured my third of the night.
Well, I wasn’t joking though my alcoholism is actually really severe, however I do like gin and ginger ale. I usually just drink straight vodka though
Ah, sorry, didn’t realize that. Hope you’re taking steps to help yourself on that front. I think I may have to myself someday, but I’m not quite there yet.
That’s kind of what I was talking about with self-fulfilling prophecies. If you start with the assumption that someone’s going to stab you in the back, you can easily see backstabbing and manipulation in many things that are actually benign.
I know. I also know I’m very paranoid and that’s why I end every relationship I ever have in a matter of months. Maybe I miss out on good people but I also never get duped.
The Person in Question
I’m really sorry Possessed. That sounds like hell. I wish you the best and remember that you have us here for support.
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Stop drinking and stick with the pot. Take it from somebody that can’t even make it to work without at least a couple shots of gin or vodka to calm the nerves.
Your 4.0 GPA is your best option for getting as far away from your family as possible.
The Person in Question
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^ Agreed. I love my family, but I spent most of the summer away from home, and it was the best experience of my life. That, and the fact that my mom got pissed when I made a “mediocre” 91% in precalculus last year keep me motivated to get good grades.
Parents who do this annoy me to no end.
Not that it really matters for me, I’m probably gonna screw up somewhere in college, drop out and/or kill myself in a few years at most.
You really shouldn’t be so down on yourself. You have no reason to screw up or drop out in college. Please, please don’t think that you’re going to kill yourself. It isn’t healthy.
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Probably the only solution for that is to see a professional psychologist of some sort. Most colleges offer some kind of counseling service that can refer you to a full-time counselor’s office if you need. If you’re too embarrassed to seek help at home then that is a more anonymous way of doing it.
The Person in Question
Honestly mfm, based on your posts about friends and relationships in this thread, you need professional help as well.
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Anything is better than drinking.
The Person in Question
You probably shouldn’t drink. It seems like that might lower your ability to do your schoolwork well. I don’t know, I’ve never had any booze and have no idea how I could acquire any anyway, but I assume it’s probably not good to do schoolwork under the influence or whatever.
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Honestly mfm, based on your posts about friends and relationships in this thread, you need professional help as well.
So I’m told. I don’t trust them though; they’ll probably just try to medicate me. Which I don’t need.
The Person in Question
You probably shouldn’t drink. It seems like that might lower your ability to do your schoolwork well. I don’t know, I’ve never had any booze and have no idea how I could acquire any anyway, but I assume it’s probably not good to do schoolwork under the influence or whatever.
He also won’t last long in college if he’s addicted to alcohol, or any substance for that matter.
The Person in Question
Honestly mfm, based on your posts about friends and relationships in this thread, you need professional help as well.
So I’m told. I don’t trust them though; they’ll probably just try to medicate me. Which I don’t need.
Don’t see a psychiatrist, see a psychologist or general therapist. They can’t prescribe medications. Even if you see a psychiatrist who can, if you tell them at the beginning that you don’t want to use medication except as an absolute last resort, a good shrink will listen.
Also don’t get discouraged if the first one you go to isn’t right for you. It can take time to find a therapist that fits your needs.
Which reminds me, I should probably call my old therapist and see if I can start going again…
I have been getting shitfaced drunk a lot now and noticed that I will tremble a lot if I miss a day or two
This is a huge red flag. Tremors are a symptom of withdrawal, which means you already have a physical dependence, and it sounds like you have a psychological dependence as well. Stop drinking now, while you can without massive health and mental consequences.
Honestly mfm, based on your posts about friends and relationships in this thread, you need professional help as well.
So I’m told. I don’t trust them though; they’ll probably just try to medicate me. Which I don’t need.
Don’t see a psychiatrist, see a psychologist or general therapist. They can’t prescribe medications. Even if you see a psychiatrist who can, if you tell them at the beginning that you don’t want to use medication except as an absolute last resort, a good shrink will listen.
Also don’t get discouraged if the first one you go to isn’t right for you. It can take time to find a therapist that fits your needs.
Which reminds me, I should probably call my old therapist and see if I can start going again…
Yes, to CA you must listen.
I don’t know if this is the right thread but I think it is…oh well…here it is:
This past summer, things with both my friends and family have been crashing and burning. On one hand, I had hung out with a girl everyday for a month straight, became best friends with her, grew super close to her and her family. Short story; I didn’t have the confidence to make a move despite how obviuos it was that she liked me. She eventually just moved on and started dating someone else. I ended up losing all of my previous friends because I had hung out with this girl a lot and she was popular and had some past issues with one of my old friends.
My family and I have a really tense relationship because of how open I am becoming about my beliefs when it comes to religion and God. They are obviously getting shaken to their cores, and there have been some emotionally distressful arguments that got really personal. They just began attacking nothing but my character and my lack of respect for God.
This next year I have some serious academic challenges that I took upon myself with my classes and I feel almost no motivation to maintain my 4.0 for the last two years of highschool. I just am not seeming to care as much when my family will eventually disown me and I am starting to isolate myself from everyone.
In response to all of this I think I maybe made a mistake. I’ve done my fair share of pot before but never felt the need to come back to it and could go weeks without it. It just made everything a little funner and cooler. After a rough summer I decided to switch it up and get some booze instead for the first time.
And after a few nights of it, I feel like it is affecting me a lot differently than pot. Pot would just be an enhancement of reality, whereas when I get drunk I just feel like I can escape. And after every night, the next day I would just think about doing it more. This never happened with pot. And when I start drinking I can’t seem to stop. I have been getting shitfaced drunk a lot now and noticed that I will tremble a lot if I miss a day or two, and I really look forward to my evenings of escape like nothing else in my life. It seemed like the solution but I am scared that I am falling in a trap and risking future addiction. It’s just so much different than weed. When I say that the whiskey will just make me forget about all my problems and shortcomings, it couldn’t be more true. And when I’m sober, it is all I can think about. My shortcomings and failures and problems that I am having with friends and family. Alcohol just takes me away from it all. It’s so blissful and even being gone for a week for a family vacation sounds like hell cause I won’t be able to drink for a full week. I just don’t know right now. And the more I freak out about this stuff, the more I drink.
Quit the Alcohol while you still can. You don’t want to become an alcoholic. The alcohol might be making you feel better know, but if your drinking continues I think that will cease to be the case. Also you don’t want the kind of trouble that kind of drinking can be to your liver.
btw, just how are getting the alcohol? You say you are still in highschool, so you can’t possibly be 21.
Maybe what you need to do with your parents is see if you get to a point with them where the both of you and agree to disagree about religion. If that is possible.
Honestly mfm, based on your posts about friends and relationships in this thread, you need professional help as well.
So I’m told. I don’t trust them though; they’ll probably just try to medicate me. Which I don’t need.
Don’t see a psychiatrist, see a psychologist or general therapist. They can’t prescribe medications. Even if you see a psychiatrist who can, if you tell them at the beginning that you don’t want to use medication except as an absolute last resort, a good shrink will listen.
Also don’t get discouraged if the first one you go to isn’t right for you. It can take time to find a therapist that fits your needs.
Which reminds me, I should probably call my old therapist and see if I can start going again…
Yes, to CA you must listen.
Californians are a bunch of damn hippies 😉
The Person in Question
Maybe what you need to do with your parents is see if you get to a point with them where the both of you and agree to disagree about religion. If that is possible.
From what I understand of his situation, that won’t happen. I know that not all Mormons are like this, but their households and communities are notorious for ostracizing people that walk away from the faith more so than any other religion in America. I’ve personally seen it happen to people I know.
The Person in Question
That is unfortunate.