The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 19

moviefreakedmind said:

Like I said, suicide cases need to be dealt with by trained professionals. No one can just say the magic words and make a person stop considering suicide. Even if you cheer them up in one instance, the root cause hasn’t been addressed.

This I disagree a bit with.

You don’t need to be professionally trained to talk about suicide. To raise the subject. Often this is the first step to suicide prevention.
Every geographical area has their suicide hotlines, The Samaritans etc. I go around with a half a dozen cards with helpline numbers on them.
If you see someone looking distressed say hi and chat with them a bit and don’t be worried to raise the subject of suicide. If it’s something they are thinking about already you talking about it will not promote the idea. If it’s something they aren’t thinking about you won’t be putting the idea in their head. If they want you to mind your own business respect that too and walk away with the knowledge that you bothered to show an interest (sometimes you may be the first or only person to do this and may make a difference just for doing that).
In the long term professional help and trained voluntary services are the way to go but in the very short term don’t let a lack of training get in the way of daring to show an interest.
If you feel like you have a bit of free time look around for suicide prevention training because it’s usually free and interesting and could save lives.

I’m not sure this is the best way to introduce myself on this forum, but I was appalled at theforce.net forums today, of which I had been a member of since 2002. There was always great discussion of books and comics, as well as the sequel trilogy once that had been announced. The JCC forum (off topic) was a bit of a shock when I first got there. I couldn’t believe they were making so many hateful jokes about the deaths of celebrities, many of them whose work I really admired. Eventually I developed a thicker skin about that, as I appreciated that they were at least fighting racism, sexism and homophobia.

Today I looked at some old threads through searching, and found that the majority of the members (many of them who consider themselves social justice warriors) were incredibly ableist. The deaf and the blind got zero empathy and tasteless jokes made about them, and many of them admitted to outright hating people with autism and asperger’s syndrome. They’ve attacked others for complaining about the forum being too p.c., but treat people with disabilities as low as they possibly could. One very popular member even said people with aspergers should all die, which got a ton of likes from people who declare themselves sjws in their signatures. How can they consider themselves pc or sjws? I really don’t see how they can live with themselves, and it triggered my ptsd. Most of them stay in their clique JCC forum and don’t post much in the film boards or literature which are a lot less asinine, but I knew I would never be able to ignore that arrogant hate speech from the people that aren’t supposed to use it. I posted a not too graphic nudie picture and got myself banned. Maybe a bit extreme, but I wanted to put that behind me as soon as possible.

I don’t want people to debate the value or lack thereof of SJWS here. I am in no way a prude and can take jokes, but not pure hate speech, especially from progressives who are supposed to be against that. They probably won’t lift the ban because of the way I left. I honestly couldn’t care less. Is anyone here disgusted by TFN forums for any reason? Whether it’s the hypocrisy of the posters, the tyranny of the mods or their policies on discussing Star Wars?

The best thing to do is to ignore any fools you meet. Don’t dignify their negativity with your attention. They are absolutely everywhere in this world whether it’s in the queue at the supermarket or posting comments online, and they’re totally unavoidable.

I’m a new poster here myself, though I’ve been reading these boards for a long time. There’s been no shortage of twits who’ve come along to cause trouble of one kind or another over the years, but like an ice cube in coffee, Constable Zuvio’s career or Dolly Parton’s training bra - they weren’t around for long.

This site is, on the whole, a friendly and safe place to interact and not a place where evil cliques tend to form. If you bring positivity and humour to what you post then I’m sure you’ll find you get it in return. You’ll also get teased and disagreed with but that’s part of the fun too!

Leave all that nastiness behind. This is a great site where it won’t be needed and I, for one, welcome you.

I thought Off-Topic was unmoderated. I completely understand wanting to keep it out of this thread, but you have linked to the entire forum. There are threads here that are specifically for the things you have mentioned. Will these now be locked? I’m confused.

comfywide said:

I’m not sure this is the best way to introduce myself on this forum, but I was appalled at theforce.net forums today, of which I had been a member of since 2002. There was always great discussion of books and comics, as well as the sequel trilogy once that had been announced. The JCC forum (off topic) was a bit of a shock when I first got there. I couldn’t believe they were making so many hateful jokes about the deaths of celebrities, many of them whose work I really admired. Eventually I developed a thicker skin about that, as I appreciated that they were at least fighting racism, sexism and homophobia.

Today I looked at some old threads through searching, and found that the majority of the members (many of them who consider themselves social justice warriors) were incredibly ableist. The deaf and the blind got zero empathy and tasteless jokes made about them, and many of them admitted to outright hating people with autism and asperger’s syndrome. They’ve attacked others for complaining about the forum being too p.c., but treat people with disabilities as low as they possibly could. One very popular member even said people with aspergers should all die, which got a ton of likes from people who declare themselves sjws in their signatures. How can they consider themselves pc or sjws? I really don’t see how they can live with themselves, and it triggered my ptsd. Most of them stay in their clique JCC forum and don’t post much in the film boards or literature which are a lot less asinine, but I knew I would never be able to ignore that arrogant hate speech from the people that aren’t supposed to use it. I posted a not too graphic nudie picture and got myself banned. Maybe a bit extreme, but I wanted to put that behind me as soon as possible.

I don’t want people to debate the value or lack thereof of SJWS here. I am in no way a prude and can take jokes, but not pure hate speech, especially from progressives who are supposed to be against that. They probably won’t lift the ban because of the way I left. I honestly couldn’t care less. Is anyone here disgusted by TFN forums for any reason? Whether it’s the hypocrisy of the posters, the tyranny of the mods or their policies on discussing Star Wars?

I FIND THIS ENTIRE POST TO BE HIGHLY SUSPICIOUS

EVEN THE PROPER GRAMMAR

Anchorhead said:

My linking it to the entire forum is my subtle hint that people shouldn’t be forum-bashing on our site. Legitimate discussions are fine, a post specifically asking for an angry pile-on of another forum is not.

I understand and it won’t happen again. Though this thread

http://originaltrilogy.com/topic/Theforcenet-horror-stories/id/12738 gave me the impression that this type of thing was not frowned upon. That’s how I found this forum and inspired my rant. I apologize.

You should have posted in that thread instead of this one. There would have been little to no frowning.

Don’t forget to drink your orange juice, Bruce.

Mike O said:

I feel like I’m stuck inside my own head…

Technically speaking you are but it’s a potentially infinite space which can be as much fun as you want it to be with a little bit of effort a little bit of help.

Mike O, do you at least have a friend to whom you can talk about your problems?

EDIT: I mean a real-world friend, not someone online. Tyrphanax is right that we all support you but that there’s only so much that we can do.

Chewtobacca said:

Mike O, do you at least have a friend to whom you can talk about your problems?

EDIT: I mean a real-world friend, not someone online. Tyrphanax is right that we all support you but that there’s only so much that we can do.

^THIS… we are good and all but humans need the human touch and most of us are aliens or computers.

Bingowings said:

Chewtobacca said:

Mike O, do you at least have a friend to whom you can talk about your problems?

EDIT: I mean a real-world friend, not someone online. Tyrphanax is right that we all support you but that there’s only so much that we can do.

^THIS… we are good and all but humans need the human touch and most of us are aliens or computers.

Or defunct viruses.