Post Praetorian said:
generalfrevious said:
Sometimes my life is pure hell. Why do I have such a sociopathic individual for a father? It's his conservatism, his belief that government is always bad people should be personally responsible for their actions and not live on welfare, his belief that climate change is a hoax, his religious extremism, his fucking Amway business (seriously one of the worst things to happen to me is when he joined that goddamn pyramid scheme), the fact that my mother blindly agrees with nearly everything he says, the fact that I make so fucking little at work and everyone is over 50 and I can't make friends, that the rest of my family are a bunch of right wing nutcases who agree with each other, or the misfortune of being catholic and living at home with little hope of affording an apartment because housing prices are so ridiculously fucking high in a shithole run by arrogant hippies who should all fucking die. i would be 60 pounds lighter and not be a loner basement virgin if I wasn't forced into Catholic schools because my parents were so paranoid about me being indoctrinated by the public school system, and who gang up on me whenever I disagree with them on political issues. I fucking hate them. I sometimes wish they were dead so I can go on with my life feel better about myself. Someone help me.
Dear general,
Your frustrations certainly can be understood and your wounds are real so let us not trivialize them, but kindly consider: if your parents were to die it would then be your responsibility to cover all expenses. At the very least it might require you to work harder. Please find some moment, memory, or happenstance in your life during which you did not have such negative feelings towards them and try to bring this event to light during times of stress and despair.
As for virginity, Catholicism, weight issues, and living arrangements: be of good cheer that all of these issues are curable--but only once you claim responsibility for yourself. Work on the weight issue by eating properly and exercising more. You will feel better about yourself and be better able to meet women.
Since you are already miserably Catholic, you may as well take advantage of such a thing by joining a youth/young adults group where likely there are 3 girls for every boy. Dress up for the occasion and be upbeat and kind.
For the living arrangement scenario, consider only that it is typically not about how much you earn, but how little you spend. Save your money with a view of purchasing a place instead of renting. Mortgage payments are typically lower than rent and provide a forced savings that typically also appreciates.
Regards,
Praetorian
I hate my religion, but I can't leave because my parents would never approve of me being not religious. Even if I met girls at a youth group (at nearly 30), I would have to marry them just to get laid and have to go directly to parenthood. That's not realistic for anyone unless you're a religious nut.
And the housing issue wouldn't be a problem if all houses cost at least a million dollars to purchase in my area. Just to be able to buy a house I would have to move to another state, commute several hours a day from another city, or find another job. I would have to make a down payment of several hundred thousand dollars, which would take several years or even decades if you make 30k a year and don't spend your money on rent, insurance, bills, gas, and food.