We’re all crazy here.
We just don’t show it here.
That’s the unspoken rule.
The second unspoken rule is that if you feel like a victim from 2 or more people, you’re probably being taught something. Take the time. Figure out what it is.
(Unspoken rules tend to be difficult for ocd, adhd, etc. because there is nothing finite about whether it’s a rule or not. Just assume it is.)