Like Bortus (and his mate), from The Orville, who is neither flamboyant nor sassy.
I’m not really bothered by men who are gay, per se, but I really am not fond of men in general who are effeminate, especially flamboyantly so. It weirds me out.
So it’s okay if they’re gay, but they need to be gay in a way that doesn’t bother you?