The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 74

Thank you, my friend.

I add my wishes to Warb’s. Like Warb my dad passed a little earlier than most, I’m rapidly approaching the age my dad was when he got ill so I wish everyone on here and their loved ones the lengthiest and healthiest of lives.

I genuinely appreciate it.

I’m with you too. Best of luck to you, him, and your whole family.

I’m sick and I’m tired of being broke and being useless and being alone. I want things to change – I want to move out, I want to get a job, I want to meet a lovely, vivacious, spiritual lady who will complete me – but there’s no one in my life to help me and I don’t know how to help myself. I feel trapped, isolated, and empty.

I’ve been there, man. In a lot of ways I’m still there, but it’s getting better little by little.

The best advice I can give (if I’m even qualified to give such advice) is to start with one thing and focus on that. Once that’s taken care of, move on to the next thing.

Easier said than done, I know, but if you try to do all of it at once you’ll never get to where you want to be.

darth_ender said:

My father is back in the hospital. As some may recall, nearly 14 months ago, he had a heart attack of such severity and with such serious consequences that he should have died. Amazingly (and in my opinion, thanks to God), he survived. Well, on Sunday he fainted and was taken to the ER. It was a mild thing and he thought little of it, but he listened to the pleadings of my mother and went, where they ended up holding him “overnight”. At first, it appeared that he was simply dehydrated, but his EKG showed premature ventricular contractions (PVCs). His cardiac rhythms have been abnormal since his heart attack (as they usually are), but this was a new development. His cardiologist decided to go ahead and order an echocardiogram, which resulted in an ejection fraction (EF) of 35%. His previous EF was 55%, which is the low end of normal. Further investigation has revealed coronary arterial calcification, which means more blockage of the blood vessels that feed the heart. So the plan is to ship him to Tucson once again (where he spent the bulk of his treatment and recovery last year) where his arteries are going to get a Roto-Rooter. This is very treatable, much more so than his episode last year, but nevertheless, it is concerning.

Hope everything goes well with your dad, Ender. Glad to hear it’s something that’s treatable.

DuracellEnergizer said:
I want things to change – I want to move out, I want to get a job…
… but there’s no one in my life to help me and I don’t know how to help myself.

While it won’t help in a direct way, you might consider doing some voluntary work. It will get you out the house and enable you to meet some new people; it might also improve your chances of getting a paid job and help you feel better about yourself.

Thank you all for your kind words. I appreciate it 😃

DuracellEnergizer said:

I’m sick and I’m tired of being broke and being useless and being alone. I want things to change – I want to move out, I want to get a job, I want to meet a lovely, vivacious, spiritual lady who will complete me – but there’s no one in my life to help me and I don’t know how to help myself. I feel trapped, isolated, and empty.

I can highly recommend volunteering in some capacity. It’s been scientifically measured with happiness tape that helping others makes you healthier, mentally and physically. It can grow skills and help you network with the sort of people looking for paid employees. You might meet that special someone doing whatever you end up doing but be wary of seeing others as your source of completion. You complete you. It’s a you that’s comfortable within yourself that attracts the interest of others. You don’t have to be conceited to be authentic and sincere. Just be and apply yourself.

DuracellEnergizer said:

I’m sick and I’m tired of being broke and being useless and being alone. I want things to change – I want to move out, I want to get a job, I want to meet a lovely, vivacious, spiritual lady who will complete me – but there’s no one in my life to help me and I don’t know how to help myself. I feel trapped, isolated, and empty.

I’m feeling this a lot lately. Though I am not in the exact same situation, life has felt incredibly empty lately, and I’m stuck on a path I can’t get off, with no opportunities to better myself.

You aren’t in my place to see the available opportunities around me.

Apparently the love and trust I’ve felt for my best friend for the last three fucking years has all been a lie. It’s my fault for going with my heart over my brain. I fucking hate life. I always have though.

Sorry, man.

Mike O said:

I’m glad your dad is OK, Ender. It’s certainly concerning, but I do send all of my well-wishes, and hope for the best for both you and him.

Forgot to say thank you. “Thank you.” 😃

Possessed said:

Apparently the love and trust I’ve felt for my best friend for the last three fucking years has all been a lie. It’s my fault for going with my heart over my brain. I fucking hate life. I always have though.

Is this the same woman who has broken your heart before?

Regardless, sorry to hear of the pain you’re going through.

Possessed said:

Apparently the love and trust I’ve felt for my best friend for the last three fucking years has all been a lie. It’s my fault for going with my heart over my brain. I fucking hate life. I always have though.

Even without knowing details that sounds pretty damn bad. I’m sorry, man.

Yeah, sorry Possessed.